MIKA MAIL: Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired

Hi Mikaluvs <3,

Twice a month I will post Mika Mail...so send me some thoughts!!!!

This week I had a Mikaluv reach out to me about their life and a certain decision that they want to make.

I will help you boo the best way I can..

Hi Mika,

I'm a 100% Mikaluv fan...Girl your posts hits home a lot. I have a big dilemma. I have been in a on and off relationship for several years now. I really am tired of this man and his antics. He has done everything in his power to make me feel guilty about wanting a better life. I feel he has mentally abuse me and made me feel bad. He lost his job six months ago and have not been able to find a new one. I currently work 40+ hours at work because I want to move in a better neighborhood for my child.

We have a daughter together who is 10. I don't want my daughter going up thinking that this type of relationship is ok. He has made my life a living hell. I can't deal with it anymore.

I've made a decision that I want to leave him and be by myself. I feel that my life will be so much better without him. Of course he is a good dad but a bad boyfriend. I know it will hurt at first but I have to eliminate the stress out of my life. I am a good woman. I go to work, currently in college, take care of my baby girl, pay all my bills on time, etc. I know I can be with someone who will be by my side and work with me to achieve a better life.

I recently had a suitor who is very well off and wants to do anything and everything for me and my daughter including helping me buy a house in the neighborhood that I want to live in.

I really don't know what to do but I gave myself a deadline of August 30th to make this major decision.

Any advice?

Miss Sick and Tired

Dear Miss Sick and Tired,

I'm truly sorry that you're dealing with this. You sound like a young woman with a good head on your shoulders and major goals. I am very proud that you have set a deadline. In my opinion it might be best to get rid of the toxic relationship that you are in but please don't jump into a brand new relationship because a suitor has made himself known. Give yourself "me time" please. You just want to be happened loved but it's best to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. 

Keep doing you and trust me homeboy will realize what he had if you make that decision to leave. As for your daughter (I have a daughter myself) please don't ruin their relationship because you two did not work out. you say he is a good dad. Let him continue to do that. I'm sure your daughter see that her mom is a warrior and a conqueror. 

Stay Blessed and SMOOCHIES!!!



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